The part about small decisions calcifying into identity is what I keep coming back to. My father had six kids, two marriages, spent his whole life working jobs he hated for bosses he couldn't stand.
He got cancer when I was 19. Before he lost his speech he told me he'd wasted so much time - should've been with his kids more and out in nature. He taught me more dying than he ever did alive. His regret wrote my life.
Wow, that's some powerful stuff. Thanks for sharing this, AJ. It's sad how often we hear stories like this... it feels like we'd choose a different path, but that just goes to show how hard it *is* to choose a different path.
There are some decisions in life i made in the past that I definitely would've regretted. But life made me not do that, not get stuck, and I really tried. Definitely a pattern. But I guess I got lucky? God? Universe? Destiny?
Oh yes, I'm a bit obsessed with learning about mental models. I love that you can take what works and discard what doesn't, plus it's just so interesting to see how other people view and navigate the world. What other types of modeling are you currently interested in?
The part about small decisions calcifying into identity is what I keep coming back to. My father had six kids, two marriages, spent his whole life working jobs he hated for bosses he couldn't stand.
He got cancer when I was 19. Before he lost his speech he told me he'd wasted so much time - should've been with his kids more and out in nature. He taught me more dying than he ever did alive. His regret wrote my life.
Wow, that's some powerful stuff. Thanks for sharing this, AJ. It's sad how often we hear stories like this... it feels like we'd choose a different path, but that just goes to show how hard it *is* to choose a different path.
There are some decisions in life i made in the past that I definitely would've regretted. But life made me not do that, not get stuck, and I really tried. Definitely a pattern. But I guess I got lucky? God? Universe? Destiny?
The small choices are never small. Eventually we get older and when we see the whole picture we actually realize how big the “small choices” were.
Great perspective!
I guess that’s why they say we are our habits. The tiny things we do repeatedly make up a life. Better make those tiny things worthwhile :)
Absolutely! ❤️
What a great day to begin again 🤍
Love this!
Oh yes, I'm a bit obsessed with learning about mental models. I love that you can take what works and discard what doesn't, plus it's just so interesting to see how other people view and navigate the world. What other types of modeling are you currently interested in?