so true & also leads to thoughts about cognitive dissonance. how many of us have tricked ourselves into thinking we’ve tried so hard, when really we haven’t taken as many tangible steps as our emotional exhaustion would have us believe?
Yes! It requires loads of self-awareness and self-honesty. It’s uncomfortable af to admit to ourselves that we haven’t actually tried as hard as we could have.
Something you said a few months ago pops into my mind. I'm not looking up the exact quote but it was something like "I don't know where I'm going, but I know how to get there." And, I think that part of knowing how to get there is running the experiment.
As you noted, people run through scenarios in their head regarding how something will turn out if they do something different. Almost always people lack the imagination to see all the possible ways that it can turn out. Most people stop thinking at the first scenario that comes to their mind, and that scenario has more to do with the framework that exists in their mind than it does with reality. The framework is safe. Outside the framework is scary or unknown.
The truth is that for most of us our ability to predict outcomes isn't great. We need to spend more time exploring as part of the process of how to get there.
so true & also leads to thoughts about cognitive dissonance. how many of us have tricked ourselves into thinking we’ve tried so hard, when really we haven’t taken as many tangible steps as our emotional exhaustion would have us believe?
Yes! It requires loads of self-awareness and self-honesty. It’s uncomfortable af to admit to ourselves that we haven’t actually tried as hard as we could have.
“Clarity is a reward for movement, not a prerequisite for it” 👏🏼🙏🏼👏🏼
This has been one of my best recent reframes. Whenever I feel "stuck" I try to recite this in my head.
Something you said a few months ago pops into my mind. I'm not looking up the exact quote but it was something like "I don't know where I'm going, but I know how to get there." And, I think that part of knowing how to get there is running the experiment.
As you noted, people run through scenarios in their head regarding how something will turn out if they do something different. Almost always people lack the imagination to see all the possible ways that it can turn out. Most people stop thinking at the first scenario that comes to their mind, and that scenario has more to do with the framework that exists in their mind than it does with reality. The framework is safe. Outside the framework is scary or unknown.
The truth is that for most of us our ability to predict outcomes isn't great. We need to spend more time exploring as part of the process of how to get there.